Sunday, September 26, 2010

The Balancing Act

When I made my last post on the Insanity of the last week (and the next couple weeks to come), I wasn't trying to sound super (but hey thanks). It really feels like insanity and it wears on on all of us. It has me thinking constantly about the choices we all made to be involved in so many things and ultimately how to balance EVERYTHING. It feels crazy. 

This super mom (daughter of Richard and Linda Eyre - if you know them) just shared the same thoughts recently and I thought I would share. Precarious Balancing Act She talks about some upcoming events and says, "I think what it comes down to is BALANCE.  Balance is such a lovely concept, but such a hard thing to really find, don't you think?  Balance requires TIME for prioritizing and re-prioritizing and self-assessment.  It requires setting and sticking to boundaries.  And just when you think you've got things balanced quite decently, some new thing gets dropped in your lap and you're off-kilter again."

She suggests looking over the week in advance and considering the question - What are the Best things I can do this week? And then creating a list of other action items that need to be done but are not necessarily essential to be done this week.  

She also poses these questions:

  • Does this really matter? To me? To others? To my overall goals?
  • Do I WANT to do this?
  • Does this really need to be done by ME? Am I really the best person to do it?
  • Would this be the BEST thing for me to devote time and effort to NOW?
  • What will I NOT do so that I can do this?
  • Can I do this in a simpler way? Is it worth doing well or just barely worth doing? Thoreau said: “Our lives are frittered away by detail, simplify, simplify.”
I can tell you - that lately - there hasn't been much THOUGHT put into what I am doing. It is a list of times and places and I go. 

Here goes another week. Plenty can't change and I don't really want it to. I really think it is fun to be at each of the kids games. But there are some things I can do BETTER in the other hours of the day.


Angie said...

Thanks for sharing. Those questions are really great guides to keep you simplified and doing the most important things. I know I waste a LOT of time on non-essentials. This was a great reminder!

Julianne said...

Why do I feel like this is something that should get easier the older I get, and yet it only seems to get more difficult? Maintaining balance IS so hard because it forces prioritizing, which is no fun because it often means cutting out some of the fun albeit frivolous things. Anyway, great post. I'm going to work on this this week!

Amy said...

how did you know I needed to hear this tonight? Thanks. We should get together sometime. maybe when insanity calms down? then again, that might not happen. Thanks again.